Navigating Vulnerability and Emotional Connections

11/25/2024

Why is dating so hard? Why does it sometimes feel even harder when you think you might have found someone—but aren’t sure? Why does everyone at this age come with so much baggage—myself included? No shade, just the truth.

I’m absolutely devastated that he canceled dinner tonight. I feel this intense urge to talk it out, but I know he’s sick and really isn’t up for it at all.

So why do I have so many feelings about this?

I want to jump in.
Take my hand and jump. Whether it works or it doesn’t, it doesn’t matter either way.

And I’m not talking about moving in or going off the deep end.
I’m not talking about marriage proposals or anything like that.
I’m talking about:
💛 Seeing each other more often
💛 Spending the night together
💛 Saying the words
💛 Making the effort
💛 Not being afraid to call just because

There’s no need to jump to exclusivity. But I want to set the boundaries of what we’re both looking for—now and in the future.

So now I ask myself:
What works for me?
What do I want?

YOU.

💛 I want to be your first text in the morning and your last at night, because I’m on your mind
💛 I want to hear about your day, and I want to tell you about mine
💛 I want to set the foundation for an emotional connection
💛 I want adventure and fun
💛 I want comfort
💛 I want two separate lives that connect on a vibration unlike any other relationship
💛 I want to make time to date, but also to spend downtime lounging, without expectations
💛 I want honesty, trust, and respect
💛 I want open communication and a safe space—a life that ebbs and flows in sync with us

Marriage? I don’t know.
Living together? I don’t know.
Fierce love and loyalty? Always.

I want out of this initial stage of dating.