Exploring Non-Monogamy: Lessons That Can Strengthen Any Relationship

When I was 40,
I realized there was a whole world beyond traditional monogamy.

HOLY SHITBALLS, BATMAN.

Let me be crystal clear:

I’m not here to tell you non-monogamy is better.
Or that monogamy is better.

I’m here to share what I learned—
and how it changed the way I approach love, trust, and communication forever.

A Quick Overview of Relationship Dynamics:

🖤 Monogamy

Two people emotionally, physically, and intimately committed exclusively to one another.

🖤 Swingers

Committed couples who play together with others—this may include threesomes, swaps, or group activities.

🖤 Open Relationships

Primary emotional commitment to each other—
but physical openness to experiences with others, sometimes together, sometimes separately.

🖤 Polyamory

Multiple emotional and/or physical partnerships—
all built on transparency, honesty, and consent.

What Blew My Mind:

🔍 Non-monogamous relationships are like snowflakes—
no two are exactly the same.

🔍 Every boundary, every expectation, every dynamic—
discussed.
Chosen.
Built consciously.

And Here’s the Secret:

It’s not about having more sex.
It’s not about being less committed.

It’s about radical honesty.
It’s about designing your relationship—
instead of inheriting it.

It’s about choosing each other
on purpose.

Imagine This...

💕 What if you didn’t expect one person to meet every single emotional need?
💕 What if you designed a love that left nothing unsaid?
💕 What if you stopped absorbing your relationship structure—
and started building it together?

You don’t have to practice non-monogamy
to apply these lessons.

No matter what relationship style you choose:

The real flex is conscious choice.

Not inheritance.
Not autopilot.
Not assumption.

Choose each other—
on purpose.

Again and again and again.