Communication
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Loveability
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Radical Self-Acceptance
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Accountability
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Boundaries
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Communication ๐ Loveability ๐ Radical Self-Acceptance ๐ Accountability ๐ Boundaries ๐
Behind every BRAVE DECISION is an archaic belief & a fear that has been manufactured by society.
Until you unsubscribe to the belief and unlearn the fear you will remain stuck and unable to make the brave decision youโve been thinking about.
Truth Sprinkles help us unsubscribe and unlearn what we once considered to be truths.
Examples of BRAVE DECISIONS & truth sprinkles:
The bathing suit & the water park
Standing at the foot of the bed, bathing suit in hand. What are you going to do? Are you going to put it on and have a kick ass day with friends and family or are you going to wear your cover up and stay under the umbrella keeping guard over the sunscreen?
Thoughts swirling through your mind:
โค๏ธโ๐ฉน Yikes, whenโs the last time you hit the gym?
โค๏ธโ๐ฉน Do you really think people want to see you in that bathing suit?
โค๏ธโ๐ฉน What will they say?
You have learned that your worthiness to show your body off and enjoy yourself is dependent upon its size but the truth is:
๐ They wonโt say a damn thing, because they are to busy trying to figure out how to bend down and pick up their towel without a mid-section roll popping out.
๐ What if you inspire that mom over there to take off her cover up and make memories with her kids just like you are.
๐ Do you really care what people think about your body?
๐ Does your body define you?
๐ Who told you your body isnโt good enough?
Put on your bathing suit, run around, laugh and make memories with loved ones.
๐ง YOU ARE WORTHY SIMPLY BECAUSE YOU EXIST
The divorce that whispers
Itโs not a new thought popping in and out of your mind. Life isnโt good or bad, it just is. Yet this constant wonder presses up against you, making it so you canโt breathe as you envision what else might be out there, and why you are choosing to stay here. Is this the right decision?
Thoughts swirling through your mind:
โค๏ธโ๐ฉน Are you ready to check that status box on the paperwork from now on?
โค๏ธโ๐ฉน No marriage is perfect, are you sure you arenโt over reacting here?
โค๏ธโ๐ฉน Who will become collateral damage if I pull the trigger?
You have been holding the uncomfortable for other people for so long, that you almost canโt separate your pain from the pain of others.
๐ You have been told that successful relationships donโt end and that relationships that end werenโt successful. Thatโs a lie.
๐ It is not your job to keep other people from getting hurt or feeling pain.
๐ง TRUST YOURSELF YOU ALREADY KNOW WHAT IS BEST FOR YOU.
Committed but unfulfilled
Phone in your hand and dating app open, this is it. Youโve had the conversation with your partner so many times and itโs becoming obvious that your physical needs will never be met. Is cheating ever justified? Are you going to give into your craving for physical touch or are you going to experience bursts of rage over every little thing?
Thoughts swirling through your mind:
โค๏ธโ๐ฉน Are you really that person - the one going behind your partners back.
โค๏ธโ๐ฉน No one dies from not having sex, you are making way too big of a deal out of this, donโt you think?
โค๏ธโ๐ฉน Other than this one thing, our relationship is perfect
Breaking trust is a cop-out. If you want out of the relationship then leave. If you donโt want out your partner needs to be a part of finding the solution.
๐ Do you WANT to continue building a life with your partner?
๐ You and your partner can re-write and redefine your relationship at any point and time, but you MUST do this together.
๐ Have you attempted to have the conversation of your needs alongside a third party professional to help streamline the communication and offer additional support?
๐ง LIFE IS NOTHING MORE THAN AN SERIES OF CHOICES FOR WHICH WE MUST ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY
Moving past the anger
You love your partner and you want this to work, but moving past the lies and deceit they created is not for the faint of heart. You know that holding onto the anger is a surefire road to divorce, but how do you let go in order to move on?
Thoughts swirling through your mind:
โค๏ธโ๐ฉน Are they telling you the truth right now?
โค๏ธโ๐ฉน What is wrong with you that made them do this?
โค๏ธโ๐ฉน The anger is so intense
You have become so skilled at manipulating yourself to be what someone else needs that you have lost yourself entirely.
๐ You are not responsible for your partnerโs actions
๐ Why would you insinuate that you are partially to blame, that you โmade them do thisโ?
๐ Is your partner emotionally intelligent enough to grow through this experience with you
๐ง YOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR THE ACTIONS OF OTHER PEOPLE, EVER.
The only way to let go of the anger is to heal.